Everything that happens day by day around us has a reason for being. Whether we are aware of it or not. It is the universal law of ( cause and effect ) , however, the common tendency of the human being is to curse and deny the things that happen in our life , but many times, we do not realize or do not want to realize the role that we play in events that we do not like, but that we ourselves attract to us.
When we learn to change our attitude and behavior about certain situations that we could consider key, it is when we acquire the responsibility and the right to obtain the results we want. But how to improve to be able with our attitude, to attract the desired results, in certain special situations? The answer to this concern can be found in the level of self-esteem that we have reached. Our degree of self-esteem is a determining factor in our behavior in the different situations of our life.
But what can we understand by self-esteem? Although there are, as in everything, a wide number of definitions for self-esteem, in a simple way we can understand self-esteem as the knowledge that a person has of himself and the satisfactory acceptance that he has of that knowledge. Therefore, your level of self-esteem will be reflected in the feelings and attitudes that the person shows in different circumstances.
In my experience, dealing with students and collaborators for more than 20 years, I have been able to realize that a large number of people experience a high degree of lack of self-esteem, however, for some people, this lack of self-esteem occurs mainly in certain situations and special circumstances.
I have realized how, this low level of self-esteem occurs in special and particularly emotional moments and is when it can hurt us the most. For example, in job interviews, in romantic dates and in the application of academic degree tests, among others, it is when we usually feel with very low self-esteem and feel defeated before carrying out our activities and obtaining our purposes.
This is known as "unproductive self-esteem," because it is difficult, if not impossible, to be productive in these circumstances. It is important to know that this situation entails a great danger, in the case of those who have children or close people for whom they are models or leaders, since this state is transmitted to them. It is also very common to feel this way, with very low self-esteem, when developing a business or project, and in such a condition the person feels uncomfortable and powerless to carry out what has been proposed.
It would not be risky to say that most of us have experienced, at some point, this type of situation, and without a doubt, this has caused us some damage, be it on a personal or family level, but should we spend our whole lives living in these situations, due to low self-esteem? definitely not.
You can overcome any situation caused by low self-esteem and become a strong, self-confident person and, especially, a productive person. You deserve it. In this series of articles I will share with you some ideas and practices to raise our level of self-esteem so that you can be happier every day and have a better quality of life. For now, repeat over and over again: I deserve to be happy and have a better quality of life, it is my responsibility and it is my right.
