At times, having character has been misunderstood as a synonym for rudeness, arrogance or stubbornness. But a person with a healthy character has constant challenges, not against others, but against himself. Each personal challenge is a way of forging a firm and determined character, unable to stop in the face of obstacles, to regret being tired or when things go wrong.
The bad character on the other hand, can make the difference between living or not living. Between health and disease. Bad character acts by instilling fear in others, but the effect it produces is similar to the firing of a cannon, which always has a rebound effect, like the butt of a rifle and ends up damaging oneself and the environment.
The word character derives from the Latin character which means to sculpt, carve, paint. It is about knowing how to sculpt yourself, control yourself, and so on. But do not expect others to support you or change you, that is a task that you will achieve only from working with yourself.
Physiological responses to bad temper
Our hedonistic society tries by all means to end negative emotions , and interestingly, one way to hide negative emotions is through bad temper. Thus, many people are in a permanent altered state so as not to show their true emotional pain, but sooner or later it will take its toll on them.
On the other hand, the negative emotions that bad character generates accumulate in our "inner tank" and this can overflow, giving rise to other forms of expression of the body such as allergies, vitiligo, psoriasis, etc. or other more subjective effects: phobias, anxieties, compulsive habits, etc.
If you have noticed, when you get angry, after the incident you remain upset, trembling. Of course, the other person may be worse off than you and may walk away as a preventive measure. On the other hand, if you are always in contact with the affected person / s it will be a permanent ordeal, which ends up generating effects on your mood and your life.
Behavior remodeling
In NLP we believe that all these situations are reversible. That negative thoughts that lead to unhealthy behaviors such as bad character can be caused by erroneous perceptions of past experiences that generate negative anchors.
For example: a girl is punished in the pantry as a child, a dark place full of food, which generates fear, to release that negative emotion she begins to eat. Now when this girl is afraid she eats compulsively. Another example: a woman gets irritated at having to give orders. A past experience in which she suffered a serious confrontation at school damaging her self-esteem made her feel very distressed, connecting her current anger with fear of not being heard.
Through NLP and health coaching techniques we can recognize negative emotions and dismantle the beliefs and fears that limit our happiness, improving our character and impacting our relationships and our wellness goals.
In Coaching with NLP we become more aware, more capable and, above all, we dissolve our rigid mental structures in order to change. If there are already several people who have told you that you have a bad character and you want to avoid suffering, it would be good if you take action on the matter. Your well being and quality of life are at stake.
The purpose of emotional Coaching is to improve the well-being of the person by introducing a series of changes, which in some cases, can lead to a 180º turn in his life, such as from night to day; depending on the emotional health goals that the person wants to achieve.
As always, the best way to understand something is to experience it.
